You don’t need to be Dalai Lama to be able to meditate. You don’t even need any specific knowledge about meditation and you don’t have to be a spiritual person in order to do it. It is a practice that any person can learn simply by doing it regularly. With practice, you will get “better” in it, you will develop your own meditation in your own pace and direction. It is not connected to any religion or beliefs, it is just about you and your inner world of feelings and thoughts. Nothing bad can come out it. You can use it for relaxation and deep breathing, you can use it for stress relief and for improving your concentration, you can use it for finding some answers about your life.
It is not always easy to sit for 15 minutes with an empty mind, alone with yourself in the silence. Most people find it hard no matter how easy it seems at first. I suggest you try it if you haven’t yet. Without any intentions, without any goals, just sit still and breathe. Just be. Try with 5 minutes a day and then gradually extent time until you reach 15 minutes of complete stillness, focusing on your breath. If a thought crosses your mind, simply let it go.
Begin with counting your breaths or staring at the candlelight or imagining waves coming towards the shore and then floating away. At the beginning , lay down on the floor to relax better, until you learn how to do it in the sitting position. You have to relax every part of your body, gradually, starting from your toes and then moving towards your head. Feel your back sinking in the floor, feel your shoulders relaxing, feel your eyes drowning in the deep. Your jaw should be completely flabby without any tension and your feet should fall each on the other side. Concentrate on the breathing, in complete silence or with some relaxing music if you want to. Breathe in, breathe out and relax. After 5 or 10 or 15 minutes, stop it and continue with your life. Tomorrow, do it again. After a while, you will notice changes. Changes in your stress level, changes in your reactions to different situations, changes in the way of thinking, changes in your perception towards reality.
The powers of meditation are a lot bigger than all of these things. We are able to change our lives by meditating, we are able to heal ourselves, we are able to hear the answers to our big questions…Simply, we are able to find our life purpose and face ourselves and our truth. In order to do that, you have to want it, you have to believe in it and you have to be persistent with the practice. Open your mind to it and approach it with a smile and positive energy. Relax and practice deep breathing, play with different ways of doing meditation, try different positions and, if you find it hard to calm your mind, begin with the guided meditations that will help you focus. There are millions of meditations on You Tube, there are millions of testimonies of people who witnessed changes in their lives with meditation. There are millions of successful people who are doing meditation every day.
I personally never believed in the powers of meditations until I started practicing it. My first meditation was a guided meditation of healing with the visualization of rain falling all over my body and cleaning all the bad memories, the pain of the past, the hurt and the shame. It was a beautiful experience. I was literally crying. After that, I began practicing meditation daily, just sitting by myself with closed eyes for a few minutes. The experiences were relaxing and pleasant, so I kept doing it. I discovered a lot about my mistakes, my decisions, my personality…I faced myself and I learned things I didn’t know before. It is not easy to face yourself, so be prepared to learn things you won’t be happy about, because this is the true YOU you are facing. On the other hand, this is the most deliberating experience ever. Only truth can set you free and the truth comes to you in your meditation. Don’t force it, don’t expect anything, don’t pretend. Just keep doing it and the answers will come to you.